You know i love it when the news is bad~
And why it feels so good to feel so sad: i’m only happy when it rains
Pour your misery down, pour your misery down on me
Pour your misery down, pour your misery down on me
i’m only happy when it rains
i feel good when things are going wrong
i only listen to the sad, sad songs
i’m only happy when it rains
i only smile in the dark
my only comfort is the night gone black
i didnt accidentally tell you that~ i’m only happy when it rains
You’ll get the message by the time i’m through
When I complain about me and you
i’m only happy when it rains
Pour your misery down, pour your misery down
Pour your misery down on me pour your misery down
Pour your misery down pour your misery down
Pour your misery down on me pour your misery down
Pour your misery down pour your misery down
Pour your misery down on me pour your misery down
Pour your misery down
You can keep me company
As long as you don’t care:
i’m only happy when it rains.
You wanna hear about my new obsession?
Im riding high upon a deep depression….
i’m only happy when it rains
Pour some misery down on me
Im only happy when it rains
Pour some misery down on me
Im only happy when it rains
Pour some misery down on me
Im only happy when it rains
Pour some misery down on me
Im only happy when it rains
Pour some misery down on me …
“Self Injury [external physical pain] is not “chosen”;
Self inflicted external injury happens when emotional pain exceed resources for effectively coping with emotional pain”.
If you cause physical harm to your body in order to deal with overwhelming feelings, know that you have nothing to be ashamed of. It’s likely that you’re keeping yourself alive and maintaining psychological integrity with the only tool you have right now. It’s a crude and ultimately self-destructive tool, but it works; you get relief from the overwhelming pain/fear/anxiety in your life. The prospect of giving it up may be unthinkable, which makes sense; you may not realize that self-harm isn’t the only or even best coping method around.
For many people who self-injure, though, there comes a breakthrough moment when they realize that change is possible, that they can escape, that things can be different. They begin to believe that other tools do exist and begin figuring out which of these non-self-destructive ways of coping work for them.
This site exists to help you come closer to that moment.
How do you know if you self-injure? It may seem an odd question to some, but a few people aren’t sure if what they do is “really” self-injury. Answer these questions:
#1. Do you deliberately cause physical harm to yourself to the extent of causing tissue damage (breaking the skin, bruising, leaving marks that last for more than an hour)?
#2. Do you cause this harm to yourself as a way of dealing with unpleasant or overwhelming emotions, thoughts, or situations (including dissociation)?
#3. If your self-harm is not compulsive, do you often think about SI even when you’re relatively calm and not doing it at the moment?
~If you answer #1 and #2 yes, you are a self-injurer.
If you answer #3 yes, you are most likely a repetitive self-injurer.
The way you choose to hurt yourself could be cutting, hitting, burning, scratching, skin-picking, banging your head, breaking bones, not letting wounds heal, among others.
You might do several of these.
* w a r n i n g:
Please try to make yourself safe before proceeding; some of these pages/posts contain images that may temporarily intensify the urge to self-harm in some people.
How you injure yourself isn’t as important as recognizing that you do …
and what it means in your life.
Self-injurious behavior does not necessarily mean you were an abused child. It usually indicates that somewhere along the line, you didn’t learn good ways of coping with overwhelming feelings.
You’re not a disgusting or sick individual; you just never learned positive ways and coping skills to deal with your negetive feelings.
“Self Injury [external physical pain] is not “chosen”;
Self inflicted external injury happens when emotional pain exceed resources for effectively coping with emotional pain”.
Alderman (1997) suggests this useful checklist of things to ask yourself before you begin walking away from self-harm. It isn’t necessary that you be able to answer all of the questions “yes,” but the more of these things you can set up for yourself, the easier it will be to stop hurting yourself.
While it is not necessary that you meet all of these criteria before stopping SI, the more of these statements that are true for you before you decide to stop this behavior, the better:
I have a solid emotional support system of friends, family, and/or professionals that I can use if I feel like hurting myself.
There are at least two people in my life that I can call if I want to hurt myself.
I feel at least somewhat comfortable talking about SI with three different people.
I have a list of at least ten things I can do instead of hurting myself.
I have a place to go if I need to leave my house so as not to hurt myself.
I feel confident that I could get rid of all the things that I might be likely to use to hurt myself.
I have told at least two other people that I am going to stop hurting myself.
I am willing to feel uncomfortable, scared, and frustrated.
I feel confident that I can endure thinking about hurting myself without having to actually do so.
MSNBC News Services
updated 8:58 p.m. MT, Mon., Nov. 12, 2007
LOS ANGELES - An autopsy was scheduled for the mother of Kanye West after preliminary information suggested she died of [cosmetic] surgical complications, a coroner’s investigator said Monday.
West died Saturday night at age 58 at Centinela Freeman Regional Medical Center in Marina del Rey, where paramedics took her after she stopped breathing at her home, according to Deborah Ettinger, a hospital vice president.
A spokesperson for the hospital also told Access Hollywood, “Donda West was brought into the emergency room at Centinela. She was unresponsive and in cardiac arrest. They tried to revive her and were unsuccessful.”
“Kanye West, his family and friends would like to thank everyone for the outpouring of support and kind words that have come in from across the country since the death of his mother.”
~publicist: Maureen O’Connor
i am thinking about starting a new catagory here at e3: “short movies that i made it all the way through without being totally confused or absolutely dissapointed”
if i were to do so… this would be one of those movies.
Filmed on what appears to be absolutelyzero budget~
i found myself asking questions:
WHAT has to happen in a movie to MAKE IT a movie?
At what point do i give a sh^t? At what point do we care?
Where is the point of no return?
…meaning: At what point do we look over to the dwindling: TIME REMAINING icon to see how much more of this we have to sit through to “make it to the end“…. to get even a SHOT or POSSIBILITY of justification in investing our time.
In watching movies i often Direct them diffrent in my head ~ in a seperate department/compartment.
I can sit and watch a movie and fully enjoy it as a spectator-
while simultaneously taking mental notes elsewhere that is a running dialouge ABOUT movies/actors/dialouge/character development etc. without totally ruining or spoiling the movie being watched. This is done in Real Time without taking away from the original movie going experience.
*I don’t give away the “surprise” ending to myself… even if i can see it coming 100 yards off.
This movie has definate “main-stream” movie influence… [note the director's last name]
i would have edited it diffrently for an ending that would have been more impactful / amazing~ (although i imagine the Original director/editor said those exact same words before the final cut)*
Anyways~ I hope you’re enjoying the recent focus on: SHORT FiLM
and until next time… “The balcony is closed.”
Let’s be honest, everyone reading this probably wants a sexy midsection. But are you going about it the right way?
Do you know if your core stability is up to snuff?
Do you really know the exercises you should, and more importantly, shouldn’t be performing?
Very few people understand core training. What’s worse, plenty of what’s out there is flat out wrong. Not only is it inefficient, but it could get you injured.
My goal is simple: to get you as strong and healthy as possible.
The only way to do that is with efficient core training.
The Mythology of Core Training:
With all the purported “information” out there, you’d think everyone would be strolling around with a six-pack. However, we all know that’s far from the case. Here are a few of the worst offenders when it comes to core training myths.
Myth #1: “I need to move — sit-ups and crunches are the best choices.”
No, they aren’t. Sorry, sweetie.
In fact, exercises that emphasize a ton of movement around the lumbar spine may be one of the worst things you can do. Noted spinal biomechanist Stuart McGill often cites that one of the surest ways to herniate a disc in your lower back is to repetitively flex and extend the lumbar spine.
What’s worse? If we look at the anatomy of your midsection, it’s a massive, cross-hatched web.
Your rectus abdominus is actually broken up into several smaller segments, versus being one long muscle. Again, Dr. McGill notes that if your rectus abdominus was there only to perform trunk flexion movements like crunches, you’d have a long hamstring versus several smaller, individual sections of muscle!
If you’d like one more nail in the proverbial coffin, think about what excessive crunching and sit-up variations can do to your upper body posture. The rectus abdominus has a direct attachment to your rib cage. By repeatedly performing trunk flexion movements, you’re effectively shortening your rectus abdominus, which in turns pulls your chest down. This leads to poor posture, with slouched shoulders. Not only is this unattractive, but leads to a host of problems with regard to keeping our shoulders healthy.
Quite simply, it’s time to ditch the crunches and sit-ups for more intelligent exercises.
Myth #2: “Crunches make me lean.”
No dice here, either.
Being lean makes you lean
, not doing endless sets of crunching.
I work with a mixture of personal training clients and athletes — some of whom have never done ab exercises. But if they’re lean enough, they have a six-pack. So the correlation there is very weak. You can crunch until you’re blue in the face, but if you aren’t lean enough to display your abs, tough cookies.
Alot can be accomplished in 30 days~
For that matter, a lot can happen in one day.
What would happen to your life if you decided to devote the next 30 days to becoming even stronger, smarter, and sexier than you are now?
For alot of you moving forward in our current Physical Transformation Project,
you have been giving much of yourselves these last 30days.
I have personally watched many of you dig DEEP to find your inner athlete and produce personal bests.
Inspired by Eri
~ Take this challenge for the very next 30 days and find out!
Here are some FOCUS items for the upcoming month: Choose a few and Accelerate your Results!
#1. Try a new Sport, choose a DiFfReNt cardio machine, climb a Mountain… do something new and exciting and you will discover some invigorating ways to stimulate Mind & Body. .
This gives you more bang for your buck by challenging your stability and your strength. Doing a push-up on an unstable service forces you to fire your stabilization muscles more.
Instead of making this your primary chest exercise, use it as a pre-firing movement, and do it before your regular chest work.
#4. Stick to One Lifting Program
Too often, our A.D.D. gets the best of us and we end before we really begin.
Even 30 days is hardly enough time to recover from Delayed Onset Muscle Soreness (DOMS), but for some, it’s a start.
Pick a great program from the Figure Athlete Article Library and stay with it.
#5. Make a Nutrition Plan, and Keep to It!
It’s just a month.
This is what it used to take for old school teeth whitening. You might find that you gain some brilliant pride in yourself if you can stick to something for one straight month.
#6. Release that which no longer serves you: Throw Out the “Back of the Closet” Clothes. Today.
You don’t need the sweatshirt to the college you didn’t even go to anymore.
You aren’t ever going to fit in those big jeans again, so toss them out.
And I don’t care how cute it is…
no one needs a “insert cute saying here” t-shirt.
It lowers your sexy appeal by 10 points, easily.
No. Seriously.
#7. Stop whining about it and actually do an entire session of some HARD WORK on your Abs:
Post Credits: Leigh Peele of Figure Athlete
and
inspired by: brett
About the Main Author: Leigh Peele is an NASM-CPT and nutritional consultant, a leader in the field of fat loss, and an innovator in metabolic repair and dysfunction. She’s also a nationally published author and speaker.
You can find out more about Leigh’s work at: www.fatlosstroubleshoot.com
and at: www.leighpeele.blogspot.com
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